Stepping into a New Decade: Give 2020 all the Smoke by Completing these 5 Steps before the Year Ends
Well, 2019 it’s been really REAL but sorry to this year you got to go! When I tell yall I am so ready for 2020. It’s almost as if God is giving me a fresh start and a clean slate and I am not taking any of it for granted.
In 2019, I finally went to therapy. Whew chile! It was everything I didn’t know I needed. I dealt with my father’s death and the choices the grief had me making. 2019 started off a bit rocky, unsure, and insecure. A girl’s trip to Puerto Rico in March had me realize very quickly who I was and whose child I was…. GOD! I quickly put the pity party to the side and after speaking with a couple of friends decided to use my company’s Employee Assistance Program (EAP) and take advantage of free therapy. It was then that I started to do the work. After losing my father in 2018, I never fully dealt with the grief, hurt and pain that he left me with or the people I was letting in my life that otherwise would have never made it in my life. I had to look back at those whys and deal with it! This isn’t a therapy post but it was a major part of my 2019. Take a look at this post that I wrote early this year about my therapy experience.
As a result of therapy, I decided to birth my baby, Kaye Consults, and I haven’t looked back since doing so! Blogging has become a form of therapy for me as well. It has also allowed me to re-evaluate my relationships especially my relationship with the Lord. I started attending church more regularly, reading my bible daily, praying at given time and have decided to not date in 2019 and took a vow of celibacy for the year which was very successful! I was also able to do lots of traveling for work and pleasure which is my first love! I explored Puerto Rico, Hawaii, Mexico (Puerto Vallarta and Cabo), Amsterdam, and Paris and my family and I will be in the Bahamas for Christmas this year. Of course too many US cities to name. 2020 is already looking nice with trips being planned to Spain and Jamaica in the works. That about raps up my year in a nutshell so lets get on to making 2020 one of the best years yet with these steps!
1. Process Your Year
Whatever this year brought you, it's important to take the time to process it. Write down the lessons you learned from each situation, come to terms with how each moment made you feel, and reflect on the transformation those moments afforded you. Walk away from this year with a summary of pivotal moments and an understanding of how they've shaped and shifted your life.
2. Heal from the Hurt
Starting your healing process before a new year is critical to ensure you approach 2020 with restored hope. It's important to work through the pain you experienced before embarking on new journeys this year. If you are not fully healed (or at least trying to heal) from what happened in 2019, you threaten the fulfillment of all that can happen in 2020. Don't go into the new year harboring ill feelings about people, places, or things; instead, work on healing from the pain associated with them.
3. Forgive Yourself
Before entering the new year, forgive yourself (and others) for everything. Your one-woman pity party is sure to impede on your celebration for the new year, so stop beating yourself up, sis. What happened in 2019, stays in 2019; leave the shortcomings of that year there and don't look back. The only things you should move forward with are the lessons you learned.
4. Reflect
Get into your own mind and figure out where you may have lost control, or where you have been completely victorious. Taking the time and thought to ask and answer these questions can help you identify key habits to work on next year. Resolutions aren't just about achieving goals, it's also about understanding the self-work that must occur to reach those goals. It's about abolishing insecurity, doubt, shame, and regret to truly operate in your calling, become a better you, and get the work done.
5. Let It Go, Sis
Harboring hurt from the unmet expectations of last year only prevents you from anticipating in the goodness of this year. So, let go of all that didn't happen. Let go of feeling let down. What you expected of the year may not have transpired, but you can't hold that against this year. Let it all go and step into the new year fresh and free. And while you're at it, let go of the toxic people, places, and things too.
Before you rush off into the new year, use this month to cleanse and reset in preparation for 2019. While you will always bring parts of last year into the new one (after all, you are just an iteration of the things that happened to you in past years), it is important to end each year at peace.
Make a commitment to yourself to start the new year with a renewed spirit and energy by processing, healing, forgiving, reflecting, and letting go. I promise it'll make your resolutions even more attainable.
Happy New Year Everyone!
With Love,
Jasmine Kaye
Source: https://www.xonecole.com/5-ways-to-reset-yourself-for-the-new-year/?rebelltitem=5#rebelltitem5